What could be worse than failure? FALSE SUCCESS! After all, when you fail at some endeavor, you can take steps to correct the situation. At the very least, you can learn from the experience and resolve to do better next time.
False success is different. Under its influence you can think you are winning when in fact you are losing. By the time you see the need to change, it may be too late. Consider an example:
"What good will it do a man if he gains the whole world but loses his life?"
That thought could well apply to those who devote themselves to the pursuit of money and all it can buy- the epitome of false success. "Thinking only in terms of the next major promotion, making more money or acquiring more stuff, fails to feed the soul", writes career counselor Tom Denham. "Simply measuring success in monetary terms is shallow and will leave you empty in the long-term".
Evidently, many people today would agree,. In one survey conducted in the United States, "having a lot of money" came in 20th in a list of 22 "contributors to having a successful life". Closer to the top were such things as good health, good relationships, and a job that you love.
Clearly, many people can distinguish between false success and true success- at least when they are asked. It is more challenging, however to make decisions that reflect the proper view of success.
How To Achieve True Success?
We all need to encourage a proper view of success. It does not teach that success is attainable only by a fortunate few. On the other hand, it does not endorse the storybook fantasy that if you simply 'follow your dreams' all your wishes will come true. That notion- which is all too often spoon-fed to children from an early age- will likely lead to disappointment.
The fact is, real success is within the grasp of anyone- but it requires effort. Consider the following principles:
1)" A lover of silver will never be satisfied with silver, nor a lover of wealth with income"
A materialistic lifestyle does not guarantee satisfaction. In fact, it tends to do the opposite. "People whose primary motivations are financial are much more likely to be anxious and depressed than people who value strong relationships with others", writes Dr. Jean M,Twenge in her book Generation Me. She adds: "Research consistently finds that money cannot buy happiness-after you reach a subsistence level, income is not significantly related to life satisfaction."
What You Can Do: Set as a goal something more rewarding than wealth and possessions. "Guard against every sort of greed, because even when a person has an abundance, his life does not result from the things he possesses".
2) "Pride is before a crash, and a haughty spirit before stumbling".
Ambition and conceit will not help you find true happiness. In fact, the book Good to Great notes that company leaders who have achieved long-term success "display a compelling modesty, are self-effacing and understated. In contrast, two thirds of the comparison companies had leaders with gargantuan personal egos that contributed to the demise or continued mediocrity of the company". The lesson? Thinking too much of yourself is more likely to lead to failure than success.
What You Can Do: Instead of seeking prestige, cultivate modesty. The Bible says: "If anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he is deceiving himself"- hardly an indicator of success!
3) "There is nothing better for a man than to.....find enjoyment in his hard work".
If you develop a strong work ethic, you will likely enjoy your work more, In her book Teach Your Children Well, Dr. Madeline Levine writes: "Part of feeling successful at something is being good at it and most of being good at something has to do with effort and persistence". That includes having the resilience to deal with occasional setbacks.
What You Can Do: Work hard to become proficient, and do not give up when faced with obstacles. If you have children, give them (according to their age and ability) the opportunity to work through their problems, Do not be hasty to rush in and fix all their problems for them, Young people find genuine satisfaction- and acquire good training for adulthood- when they develop resilience.
4) "A live dog is better off than a dead lion".
If you work secularly, your job should be part of your life- but not your whole life. Really, how successful will you feel if you are at the top of your profession but lose your health or the respect of your family? People who are truly successful endeavor to keep their work, health, and family life in proper balance.
What You Can Do: Take care of yourself. Get proper rest. There's little benefit in becoming a workaholic who sacrifices everything- health, family, and friendships-for false success!
I hope you enjoy this post and please share your thoughts and what's your own take on 'what is true success' mean to you?
Thanks and have an amazing weekend,
Jana Thanga
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